MAS(K)ulinity and Hegemony

The relationship between hegemony and masculinity is that they are both rooted in a desire for power if not dominance. Masculinity tends to be something constantly worked for, and masculinity gives status. Males often exploit their fear of losing their masculinity (status/power) by policing each others behaviors, actions and decisions. In that sense, I feel like masculinity is more of a display; bigger muscles, bigger car, bigger penis, all big everything and a better paying job are what some people find ideal.  Even in gay men culture, masculinity is favored over femininity and to a certain degree even they are policed or placed at the bottom of the rung. Men are rewarded for not challenging or questioning what masculinity is but adhering to 'the rules'. It's a facade and you might have to fake it to make it.   Females historically have been expected to relinquish power to men, while men refused to give up any  authoritative power and compete amongst themselves for it. Although hegemony and masculinity go hand in hand in the mainstream, it is not absolute because there are always exceptions when describing people. Things begin to shift in modern times, such as women in high places but to get there they are stereotyped as masculine or a bitch, but a man in the same situation is just being a man. Or in the context of a relationship, there are women who "wear the pants", which is considered a masculine role and the man is considered "whipped" and stripped of his masculinity, thus less of a man and less respectable among his peers.
This may be going off on a tangent but it makes me think of the movie " The Stepford Wives" not the original but the crappy 2004 remake. It takes a strong woman character who is the head of a company, who has a breakdown and her and her husband move to Stepford, where a bunch of men who were submissive to their dominating wives, "correct" them by implanting chips into their heads to make them submissive and cater to the mens every needs, and the main husband was badgered for not wanting to do it to his wife. The point is, they wanted to reclaim their masculinity and power over their wives who were more successful then them in order to feel pride and power.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B3HASgMS7w0